Can’t Find A Reason To Smile? Read My Tips To Help Lift The Cloud…

Some days, you just don’t feel like you have any reason to smile when you have mental health issues.

It’s a difficult thing to face. You know you have plenty of good things in your life, but the anxiety, depression, or whatever else you face, feels like a heavy, black cloud hanging over you. You just can’t shake it.

But I want to share with you the things that make me smile, and the ways I try and notice them on those darker days.

Gratitude

It’s good practise to notice the things that you are grateful for. I write a list in my bullet journal, usually on a weekly basis, of the things that I am grateful for, and the things that I appreciate. 

Concentrate on the things that happen that give us our reasons to live

  • To start with, I write about my partner, and the things that he does for me, and the way that he looks after and supports me.
  • I jot down the things that my family help me with, and the nice memories we make.
  • I think about my job, and the way that my career is moving forward, and how I am really lucky to have found a good job.

Once you start noticing these things, and writing them down regularly, you start to see all the good things going on in your life. It helps you visually see that you are lucky. You do have a lot going for you!

It’s sometimes really hard not to feel guilty, as others have it much worse than you, and yet you are struggling. But it’s all relative. You should never feel guilty for struggling. Mental health issues are real, they are medically proven, and you cannot help it.

You have to remember that you are not alone with these feelings.

You are not stupid or wrong for feeling the way you do. It’s a part of your life, and you haven’t done anything to deserve it.

The Great Outdoors

On the days when I’m feeling a little hopeless, I try and spend some time outside. I sit out in my garden, and I can hear the birds in the trees, and the rabbit is hopping around in her run, and I realise that there is so much beauty in the world.

I get that feeling as I look up at the sky, that the days and nights will keep on going by no matter what happens, and that I’m a small part of a massive machine. It helps me to know that I’m insignificant some days, because it stops me feeling so responsible!

I also like looking at the stars and realising how tiny I am compared to the whole universe, and it helps ground me.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, then it can help to just spend some time outside and sit amongst the flowers. 

Also, it can be really nice to go the beach. Sitting by the sea is really relaxing, and the fresh sea air can help clear out the cobwebs. Even if it’s raining, it can be just as nice to go for a wander along the beach and get blasted by the fresh air!

The world really is a wonderful place, and when you have a mental health issue sometimes it can be really easy to hide away, and not see what’s going on around you. 

It’s not always easy to appreciate it, but by noticing, and trying to spend more time in the outside world can do you no end of good.

Love

Sometimes, just realising how loved you are can be a massive help, and can mean so much to you on those days where you don’t have a hope.

On the days when I’m struggling my partner will notice, and he will do what he can to reassure me, and make sure that I know how much he loves me. He will give me cuddles and wipe my tears away when I get upset. I don’t know how he does it some days, but I do appreciate it so much. And he knows just the right things to say, which can be a massive help when I’m struggling.

He gives me the strength to keep pushing sometimes, and I’ve never known a man as kind as he is.

If you have someone in your life who loves you, don’t ever take it for granted. People like that don’t come along very often, and you need to make the most of it!

Love wholeheartedly, and never be afraid to love someone. You will only regret it when you’re old and wrinkly if you don’t grab it with both hands!

Living with someone who has mental health can be a challenge, but if someone is willing to be there for you, through all the bad days, the tears, the screaming and the shouting, and if they deal with the crap you inevitably give because of your inner pain, then don’t ever let them go!

On the other hand, however, don’t cling to the first person that shows you kindness like that. Just because they would do that for you, doesn’t mean you owe them. It’s up to you who you spend your time with, and only do so if you love them back. 

It’s known in people with mental health issues that they seek a relationship with the person they think they deserve, and not the person that they actually deserve.

Keep looking until you find the person that lights up your world, because you do deserve it.

There Are Always Reasons To Smile

 
I wanted to write this because I know what it feels like to think there’s no reason to smile. And whilst I can’t take that away for you, and if I could, I would, I can share with you the things that help me. I can give you something to try.
 
I know that’s it not that easy, and that there are a thousand things that land on top of you and make you feel like your own brain is against you, but you can get better. You can feel in control of yourself, and you can smile again.
 
There isn’t anything to be afraid of, and there is always someone who understands.
 
Even when you feel like there isn’t hope, and you can’t smile at all, at least try and remember that there are reasons to smile, and that one day, they will get you smiling again.
 
Laura
 


About The Author

Laura Jacques

Hi, my name’s Laura! I’m obsessed with nude lipsticks, messy buns and cushions. I have so many cushions…
I am passionate about bringing achievable and realistic advice and tips to other women. It’s all about running your own world, and looking & feeling good whilst you do it ♡
A beauty addict, blogging coach and missionary for women’s empowerment.